Get Congruent

Wow, this is a big one. Congruency is essential to achieving your goals. What do I mean by "get congruent." First of all, I am assuming that you have written down a clear description of your ideal life. If you have not done this, do it now. Don't hold back, what is your dream life? Write it down. Now. Then come back and read the rest of this. This is what I call "moving the box," more on that in another post.

When you look at your ideal life how does it compare with the life you are living now? I have no doubt that you will find a lot of things about your life that don't match up with your dream life. Maybe you can't see how you will get from where you are now to where you want to be. You might even tell yourself it is impossible. Others may tell you it's impossible. I'm telling you that anything is possible and somewhere deep down, you know I'm right.

I'm going to tell you how getting congruent can help you get from point A (where you are now) and point B (your ideal life). Aligning yourself with your dreams is all about congruency. I'll use my own life as an example. When I was 24 years old, I was living at the beach and partying every day. I was a smoker and a heavy drinker. I was completely irresponsible with my body, my relationships, and my finances. This went on until I crashed and burned. When I had no money left, no job, no car, no home, and no self worth I woke up. I began designing my ideal life. When you have nothing, it is easy to dream.

I created an image in my mind of who I wanted to be. I wanted to be self-sufficient, healthy, respected by friends and family, financially secure, brave, and confident. I created images of my ideal life. The key in doing this is to be as specific as possible. After much soul searching, I was able to create a clear picture of what I truly wanted my life to become. I wanted a loving partner, a life of adventure centered around the ocean, to become a published writer, and to heal my relationships with the people I had isolated myself from. My life at that time was so far from where I wanted it to be, but it never occurred to me that I could not change things for myself, even though i had no idea how to do it.

I wrote down what I wanted and constantly reread, revised, and refined my goals. I wrote down all of the specifics I wanted in a partner and then I stopped looking for one. I turned my attention to re-creating myself as someone I would like to live with forever. I realized that I wanted to live not just near the ocean, but on the ocean. I discovered that there is a subculture of people who live on boats and travel the world. I knew this was exactly what I'd been searching for.

I enrolled in sailing classes at the local community college. I knelt on the floor of the local Barnes and Noble and read about this lifestyle almost every day. I quit smoking and cut down on the drinking. I began running and working out. I got a clerical job to get me back on my feet and worked there for a year while I shaped my new life.

Almost everything I was doing was aligned with my ideal life. At the end of that year, I was boat shopping and had my vices completely under control. I was paying my bills on time and taking care of myself. I met my future husband at that time. He was on his way to the Bahamas... on his sailboat. I started out with nothing, but the knowledge of what I wanted to see in my life. There was no path, but as I took action to become the person I wanted to be, a path emerged.

Getting congruent begins with you. Ask yourself what do I want and who do I want to be? And begin to re-create yourself. It's fun, exciting, challenging, and so rewarding. If you are searching for a mate, be that person you want to spend the rest of your life with and you will be surprised that once you become someone you can love how quickly your mate will come into your life.

It's all about aligning yourself with your goals. If you want more money, make sure you are working toward that. At the most basic level, a job is essential, even if it is not your ideal job. Once you have an income coming in, then you can work on discovering your passion and use that to make an even bigger and more rewarding income. This can take awhile, but it is so worth it. Make sure you contributing to a savings account, because if you don't think you're worth it then no one else will. Meet your financial commitments on time. Raise your financial consciousness to a level that says you know how to manage your finances, and you will find that you have more opportunities coming your way to prove it.

I will cover discovering your passion and making money with it in another post. For now, look at your life and figure out if there is anything you can do right now to align yourself with your ultimate goals. I told you the best way to attract the someone to spend your life with is to be that person yourself. If you want to look better or feel better then research health and fitness and start a program to adopt a healthier lifestyle.

My advice is to do this in the most self sufficient way possible, researching options yourself, not asking others to do it for you or tell you what to do. You will only get true answers from within. I hope you notice this statement resonating inside you, because on some level you must know that this is true. We've become so dependent on others in our society that we can hardly make a decision without seeking the approval of others. It begins with trusting yourself. Know that you have all the answers you need already.

It all seems so simple, but try it and you'll see that it takes constant vigilance and lasting perseverance to see it through until you actually affect changes in your life.
I did it, and I continue to do it every day. I am creating the life of my dreams every second and it's an awesome experience.